I’ve covered red flag personalities; now, how about red flag phrases? We’ve all heard them before—the phrases that instantly make us dry up like the Sahara, and our uteruses go on strike. Sure, it depends on where we are in life and who we are, so we can give it a few strikes before leaving. But let’s be honest, nothing good ever comes from sticking around with this sort.
Here are some classic sayings that should send you rushing for the exit!
"I’m a Nice Guy"
I’ve heard this way too many times! The guy that feels like he needs to remind you that he’s nice. Well, ladies, there's a good chance he’s trying to convince himself more than you. You can stick around, I have, and trust me, they’re the biggest piece of shit to ever grace this hellhole called Earth. Real nice men don’t need to advertise this; they just are.
"You’re Not Like Other Girls"
This one is not a huge red flag, but it could be. Sure, it sounds like a compliment at first, but yet we feel something nagging at us from the inside when we hear this. If we’re so great, why not just say, “You are so awesome!” or “You are so amazing!” Why generalize half the population by putting them down to lift someone up? Eventually, the novelty will wear off, and we just become like the others, which in their eyes, is shit.
"Trust Me, I’m Not Like the Others"
Oh, really? Because there are over eight billion people out there, and they’re all saying the same thing. If you’re so different, say so with actions, please. If you are genuinely unique, it will show, assuming you’re not putting on some mask. And why are you assuming I’ve only been with douchebags? This gives me fuckboi vibes.
"I’m Always Right"
I’ve heard this one before, and to no one’s surprise, they were usually wrong. But that doesn’t mean it’ll leave you feeling beaten down and stupid. This state of mind means they will never be understanding or open to other’s perspectives. If anything, it’s to keep you under control and void of opinions. They are delulu, and you will never be their solulu. Best to leave this one at the curb.
"I’m a Man"
Wow, thanks for the biology lesson. But if you need to say this, then I may need a magnifying glass (iykyk)! Why do these men have to declare their gender during an argument? To make you feel smaller? Most likely. The worst is when they say, “I’m an alpha man.” Well, no, you’re not. We aren’t in the Dark Ages anymore or even the 50s. It’s 2024; most of us want respect and an awesome partnership, not some caveman dominance. Pass!!
"Here’s Some Chocolates, Women Like That"
No, bitch, I like kittens and Zoro figures! Before you ask, yes, I’ve been given chocolates by a guy along with this saying. How is that romantic? Are you 5? With the age of social media, how hard is it to quickly go to someone’s profile to see what they like? They were stalking my profile anyway. People are complex and unique. Reducing someone to a stereotype (a boring one at that) is bloody lazy.
Dating is like a minefield. Most times, you step on a landmine. So, next time you hear one of these lines, feel free to laugh in their face and keep looking. Remember, the good ones don’t need to advertise things. Have you ever seen a commercial for a Rolls Royce or a Rolex? No. Why? Because they don’t need it.
Hard to believe, I’ve encountered all of these types!